Movies Are My Meditation

“Mommy, you think my brain is rough, but you only have to listen to it when I’m awake. I have to listen to it 24 hours a day.”

I have always lived in my head. My brain whirs at a rate of knots all day, every day. Getting to sleep is hard, because I chase thoughts down the rabbit hole without hesitation. I have spent hours contemplating a mistake from twenty years ago that nobody else cares about or even remembers. I have a chronic stomach condition that was brought on by anxiety: a reaction to absurd, neurotic over-thinking. I’ve tried meditation and medication and you know what the only thing I’ve ever found that works to get me out of my head is? Movies.

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So You Want a Kitten

copyright Kate Tull

Tiny, expensive bundles of joy.

You’ve been thinking about it, and you’ve decided that you are ready to add a kitten to your family. They’re sweet, they’re fluffy, and there are tons of them around, so why not? You decided not to go through a breeder, and have booted up petfinder.com and have found a couple of candidates. And then you get to the adoption fees section, and you screech to a halt.

A hundred and fifty dollars to adopt a kitten?! That’s highway robbery! Where do they get off?!

It sounds like a lot of money, but you should slow your roll on it. Recently, my cat (who I’d adopted from a friend) unexpectedly gave birth to a litter of kittens. Had I gone through a shelter, that would never have happened. I love both her and the little furballs, and I wouldn’t trade them for anything, but that might well have been better. See, kittens are not without costs. But don’t take my word for it, let me break it down for you*:

  • Vet visit $35.00
  • Rabies Vaccine $21.00
  • Strongid (de-worm) $15.00
  • Revolution (heartworm control) $18.00
  • Medical Waste Fee (test for worms) $4.00
  • FVRCP Vaccine $20.00
  • Feline Triple Test (HW/FIV/FELV) $60.00

You’ll have to visit the vet three times ($105) – to get the FVRCP Vaccine and its two boosters ($60) – and you’ll have to pay two medical waste fees ($8) to confirm the kitten is worm-free. Now you’re up to $287, per kitten. That’s not including the cost of spaying ($200) or neutering ($150) your furry friend, which is something all cat owners should do. Add all that up, and you’re looking at $437 – $487. Sure, there are discount spay/neuter programs. If you are on public assistance, the ASPCA will spay your cat for free. Otherwise, it’s a $125 charge for either procedure.

When you really sit down and look at what you get when you go through a shelter, that $150 – $200 doesn’t look so bad: you’ll be going home with a pet that has had all of their tests and vaccines, has been certified healthy by a vet, and has been fixed. For at least a third of the cost that you’d face from acquiring one elsewhere.

Shelters aren’t looking to make a profit off your adoption. They’re not even looking to break even. They are trying to get a small percentage of their costs back so they can continue housing, helping, and placing animals that are in need.

So, you’re looking for a kitten? Go to your local shelter. And if you don’t have room in your life for one now, consider making a donation, anyway.

*These are all based on my vet bills, at a reasonably priced vet in Brooklyn, New York.

I Am Not a Unicorn

Hi, my name is Kate, and I am Girl Who Loves Sports. I love hockey and baseball, and will happily watch football, basketball, and soccer. I am also a Geek Grrl: bring on the comic books, cartoons, fantasy and sci-fi novels, even the occasional video game.

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holy crap, TWO girls who like dude stuff in one place!

I don’t want a cookie for this. And I don’t want your gleeful surprise at finding a “chick who digs dude stuff,” like you just found a unicorn in Manhattan. I’m going to let you in on a secret: you haven’t.

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Racism, Privilege, and Trayvon Martin

Yes, fellow white people, I am totally making fun of you.

I have a couple of quick points that I’ve been turning over in my head as I’ve been watching the daily discussion about the Trayvon Martin case. Think Progress has a great rundown on it, in case you’re not caught up.  The FBI has opened an investigation, but you may still want to sign this petition; there are miles to go between a grand jury being opened and justice actually being done.

1a. Can you imagine what it would be like to look at your child every day when they leave the house and know that someone in power could gun them down and not even be brought to justice for it? I can only barely grasp how terrifying and awful that kind of feeling would be like.

1b. If imagining that fear is a purely intellectual exercise, rather than a fear that you live with daily, count yourself lucky, but know that this is a privilege. There are countless people for whom that feeling is a daily reality; people who have to teach their children how to survive an interaction with the authorities because it is a vital survival skill.

2a. What happened to Trayvon Martin was put in motion by centuries of policy and prejudice on the part of white people. Were it not for that deep-seeded racism, nobody would have hesitated to put George Zimmerman in handcuffs and drag him to a holding cell.

2b. This situation – none of these situations, because there are many - is not about the actions of one white man. One white man stalked a teenage boy and then shot him down. A group of white people saw and heard what was going on and failed to act. Another group of white people decided that it was totally plausible that a man who had 100 lbs and a gun over the kid with the bag of candy acted in fear of his life. And it is a society led by white people that created the environment for this to happen. This doesn’t mean you are individually a bad person, but it means that you – and me – are part of a group of people who are responsible for this situation. And just as we have allowed groups of people to be tarred with the brush based on the actions of individuals, so do we then have to accept that tarring in these circumstances.

3. The miniscule amount of prejudice you may potentially go through as a white person is NOTHING in comparison to what non-white people in this country have to go through every. single. day. So sit down and listen. And for God’s sake, learn to use the internet for some more than just porn and piracy; it’s nobody else’s responsibility, outside of grade school, to teach you about things that are a matter of historical record.